Let me tell you a story of a fictitious young lady who was young, naive and trusting...and beautiful too!
She was the epitome of your ideal woman and I longed and desired to be like her because she just oozed excellence form the very pores of her being, my! was she precious?! This lady was diligent, smart and intelligent, loving, caring, a good cook, a good listener and like I earlier mentioned, beautiful! But remember that I said that she was naive...yes, she was...VERY!
She had lived her 19 years sheltered in her parents home and had had her steps and every move screened by them too. If she dared defy them, she would be severely reprimanded and punished.
She had loads of questions for her parents but didn't know how to ask them for fear they would say she was 'impure' and possibly, needed deliverance from seductive spirits!
She had been fed loads of stuff about hard work, humility, gentleness, and the other virtues that a woman is told she ought to possess and she did possess them. I tell you, if you are a dude and you are reading this, she is your dream lady because she was a blend of perfection and innocence and the men all loved her absolutely!
The problem however was that she was naive...naive to the point of vexation.
She had been taught the basics but the basic truth had not been revealed to her...the basic truth about love, sex and marriage so she was like a little bird in a sheltered nest whose mother had been teaching it how to flap its wings alone but who was yet to know how to leave its nest and soar high above the universe...
No, she didn't know the basic truth about flying high but keeping well away from the eagles of these world.
She was yet to understand that all men loved her beauty but not every man was going to appreciate it and truly love her.
She was yet to discover that some men were going to come to her with seemingly good intentions and pretend she held their hearts in their hands just so they could have a taste of whatever it was that she had and then scorn her.
She was a happy girl who had been told to stay away from sex until marriage but had not been told to stay away from deceitful men.
She was yet to understand that sex was not equal to love by any means.
Now this lady was passing through a major phase in her life and it was the transition from teen age to adulthood.
She didn't know how to handle it. She had lived her whole life in a nunnery-like school and so she just didn't know what you know about men. She had just completed high school and had been recently accepted into college. Boy! was she glad?! You see, all her life, our lady had felt a longing...a need, a yearning to experience the world that stretched itself out beyond her own little cocoon of universe but her parents had been like two big bulls that had their eyes on a toy...being the only child wasn't helping at all. Truly, many times she despaired that they were going to make a sudden decision to home-school her and so when they reluctantly parted ways with her at her school hostel, her sigh of relief was huge!
Then this beautiful and sweet accommodating lady started having lectures and she noticed all of a sudden that wherever she went, heads turned to stare at her...her mere entrance into any room halted conversations, her passing by caused angry girlfriends to forcefully demand their gaping boyfriends' attentions and generally, the dudes decided that they had one life-purpose: to either have her or to have her.
She was in high demand; our friend who knew nothing about 'the guy who ought to be your friend', 'the guy whose propositions you ought to refuse', 'guys you ought to flee from' and 'the guy who will make you happy for the rest of your days.'
This ignorance of hers put her in a quandary and all she knew was that she enjoyed having a different kind of attention being paid to her so, she basked in it.
Next thing you know, this lady started receiving sex propositions from men and she just didn't know what to do with them.
She had heard her acquaintance discuss the topic and had heard it mentioned that it wasn't an unpleasant experience...'Well, it wouldn't hurt to try it once' she taught to herself and so she did try it, several times, I must say!
One day, on returning to her room after being dropped off by one of her 'sex-propositors', she chanced a look in her bathroom mirror...and gasped.No, she did not see an armed man wielding a gun behind her.
Here's what she saw... a caricature image of herself looking ten years older.
All the innocence was history and the wide-eyed beauty of yesterday was nowhere to be found. She leaned in closer to the mirror to survey her face once more to see if maybe, she would find a trace of that precious version of herself but it was an out-of-date version that was irretrievable...She couldn't believe it. But she had been having so much fun! She thought to herself...and she had been diligent...she had been smart (at least, she hadn't climbed into the beds of every man who had 'toasted' her.
Well, just about twenty-nine of them only) 'So why do I look so used?' she'd mused aloud. She was in her second year of school and was yet to go home for the holidays because of her excuses to her parents that she had to travel constantly for projects and stuff.
This new 'her' was beginning to repel her and she did not understand why she wasn't blossoming as her friends had told her she would when they offered her drugs and hooked her up with older men-friends. All of a sudden, she felt tired and worn-out...
I'd love to conclude this piece by telling you that our lady contacted the dreadful disease that you are most definitely beginning to assume she got.
However, she got a worse fate.
DISILLUSIONMENT...She became deeply disillusioned and sorrowful and was very eager to fall into the deceptively comforting arms of booze and drugs and she did that diligently too I must tell you! At least they were always true to her...truer than her parents had been to her anyway.
Booze and drugs would never lie and tell you that you would get pregnant if a guy so much as threw you a glance, neither did the drugs deceive you that sex was a crime committed by wanton ladies alone; also they didn't sit you down in a parlor for hours on end and tell you that if you explored your sexuality just this little bit, you were going to be in big trouble.
Booze didn't tell you that there were no men worthy of your trust in this world except your father, neither did marijuana look you deep in the eyes and tell you in a sugary-sweet voice that no one in the world could love you as much as your parents do.
If her parents who had been her first and closest teachers could feed her with such lies for her 18 yrs, who couldn't? Even more, what was the point in living? She had received some knowledge about the 'boy-girl thing' in high school only to have her parents say a different thing at home and really, she just didn't know who and what was right anymore!
I guess this is where I chip in that my lady is only a figment of my imagination...yes, she happens to be.
However, before you get angry and worked up because you think I have just fed you a whole load of crap, I know a lot of people I could use as case study for this write-up but I decided not to.
This, - everything I have written above - it happens! For real!!!
 |
| Start educating them early! |
No comments:
Post a Comment